"I met my second wife on Ok Cupid and started texting back and forth nonstop for a few days. We literally talked for hours on our first date; it was like fireworks were going off.She was fine with [my divorce] at first, but I think after our third date, she spoke to one of her friends who said that because I was divorced, there must be something wrong with me. She was ready to break up with me on that fourth date, but I remember telling her something really personal about how I was there for my dad when my grandfather died and how I helped him through.These can be great perks," says licensed psychotherapist Tina B. They're also more "willing to share their feelings and tackle the tough topics," says relationship expert Lori Bizzoco, founder of Cupids "Men who are divorced enjoy companionship that they were familiar with having been married before," says La Pronda, 43, who's dated both never-married and divorced men."They don't shy away from a conversation about relationships, marriage, love and intimacy." Adds Bizzoco, "Even though his previous marriage didn't work out, dating shows he's willing to open himself up to love and that he's interested in something serious again."4. Men naturally want to "fix" things and problem solve, life coach and dating expert Brooke Lewis points out, which can translate into a post-divorce desire for a successful new relationship.I needed someone who would be there to help pick up the pieces when stuff went completely sideways.It made me realize that I was allowed to be picky, but by the same token, that I should meet all sorts of different people to explore the world out there.
Here, three men open up about what it was like to start dating again after getting divorced in their twenties."My ex-wife was the one who initiated the divorce.Your priorities become different since you've been through some shit.I feel like getting married and divorced so young completely changed my perspective on what I wanted out of a partner.We asked experts—and women who've dated (and even married!) divorcés—to explain the many upsides to seeing a formerly married man.1. As a marriage unravels, "wives are pretty verbal about what they perceive their husbands did wrong," whether it be too much time at the office or being an awful communicator, says marriage and family therapist Rachel Sussman.