Building Alternative Relationships Focusing on Yourself Embracing the Present and Looking Ahead to the Future Community Q&A Are you single, tired, and fed up of seeing happy, in love couples kissing in parks and walking through the city arm in arm?Do you feel lonely that everyone else in your social group has a boyfriend or a girlfriend?A recent study shows that 86% of young people assume their current or future marriage will be forever, and I doubt older people feel much differently.So we’ll proceed under that assumption.) And when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career therapist, and someone whose day you’ll hear about 18,000 times. So given that this is Studies have shown people to be generally bad, when single, at predicting what later turn out to be their actual relationship preferences.To a frustrated single person, life can often feel like this: And at first glance, research seems to back this up, suggesting that married people are on average happier than single people and much happier than divorced people.
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The best way to deal with emotional pain is to feel it, without making it better, because great gifts are on the other side of feeling that pain.
In order to understand exactly what I mean, let’s first look at how we behave when we are in pain.
And the narcissist has skipped off into the horizon, continuing life as normal without even skipping a beat. Insult is added to injury when you start experiencing: You may call, text or write letters to the narcissist, venting your feelings, fishing for answers, trying to coerce him or her to respond like a normal human being, force some accountability, and you may spew forth your pain to try to activate some sort of guilt.
However, no matter what you try, it doesn’t work; leaving you even more for closure. Closure may be possible if you were dealing with a normal human being, because the fundaments of normal human interaction are about having a conscience, and possessing the ability to consider other people’s feelings. I do, and I have found that this acceptance is one of the biggest keys in recovering from narcissistic abuse. As you well know by now, the narcissist does not have this functionality – and no matter how much you would like him or her to grant you something, anything to help you gain closure – the narcissist has no perception, or desire to do that.